Uphule Ubuhlungu Bokungabi Nezinto — Futhi Walahlekelwa Yinto Ebalulekile

Ngubani owake waba nesikhathi sokungabi nalutho? hhayi nje okuncane okungahambisani nesikhathi ngaphambi kokuthi ufune ifoni yakho — kodwa ngempela ungabi nalutho, ungenalutho lokwenza noma lokubheka, okungaphezu kwemizuzu emibili? Kubantu abaningi impendulo eqotho ithi: akukaze kwenzeke eminyakeni. Ifoni yenza ukuba ukungabi nalutho kube ukukhetha, futhi uma sinikwe ukukhetha, sikwenze kwaphela. Zonke izigaba, zonke izinyathelo, zonke izikhala manje zigcwele. Kubonakala njengempumelelo. Kungase kube ukulahlekelwa okuthule.

Ubugebengu bunenhlonipho embi — siwubheka njengenkinga okufanele ixazululwe, isikhala okufanele sigcwaliswe. Kodwa abacwaningi abahlola ubugebengu bathole ukuthi bukhona obalulekile obubhalwe phansi: bukhuthaza ubuciko, buphusha ukuzindla, futhi buphusha thina ukuba sithole incazelo. Ngokukhipha ubugebengu ngokuphelele, kungenzeka ukuthi siqedile inqubo yokucabanga esingazange sazi ukuthi siyayidinga. Lokhu kube yinjongo yobugebengu, futhi kungani ukubuyisela okuncane kwayo kufanelekile ukungakhululeki.

Okukhumbula kwengqondo yakho uma ingenakho okwenziwayo

Uma ungagxilile emsebenzini noma ungathathi ulwazi oluphuma ngaphandle, ubuchopho bakho abukhiyi — bujolisa ezimweni. Buvula lokho abacwaningi bezengqondo abakubiza ngokuthi inethiwekhi ejwayelekile, umkhondo wokusebenza ohambisana nokuhamba kwengqondo, ukuphupha, ukukhumbula okwedlule, ukucabanga ngekusasa, nokwakha izixhumanisi ezingalindelekile phakathi kwemibono. Lokhu akusikho isikhathi sokuphumula. Lapha kwenzeka okuningi kokucubungula okungemuva kobuchopho — ukuhlanganisa, ukuzindla, ukuxazulula izinkinga — empeleni kwenzeka.

Ukungabi nalutho kuyindlela yokungena kulolo hlobo. Isimo esincane sokungakhululeki, esingathokozisi yiso esivumela ingqondo ukuthi ihambe ngaphakathi futhi iqale ukuhamba ngendlela efanele. Gcwalisa wonke umzuzu ophumayo ngemininingwane, futhi awusoze wadlula le ndawo — inethiwekhi ejwayelekile yezenzo ayitholi ithuba. Ukeepile ingqondo yakho isesimweni esiphendulayo, esibhekiswe ngaphandle futhi uyilahlile leyo engaphakathi, eyakha.

Ukungabi nalutho akusikho isikhathi esingenalutho — kuyindlela yokungena kulolo hlobo lapho ingqondo yakho ibonisa, ixhumanisa imibono, futhi ikha imibono emisha. Gcwalisa zonke izikhala ngempahla, futhi awusoze ungene emnyango.

Lokho ukungabi nalutho kwakwenza ngokuthula ngawe

Ukukhuthaza ubuciko

Kukhona isizathu sokuthi abantu abaningi baphawule ukuthi imicabango yabo emihle ifika ngesikhathi sokugeza, ukuhamba, noma ngesikhathi sokuhlanza izitsha — imisebenzi enezinga eliphansi lokukhuthazwa evumela ingqondo ukuthi ihambe. Ucwaningo luveze ukuthi izikhathi zokudikibala zingakhuphula ukusebenza kokudala okulandelayo: lapho ingqondo ingatholi ukukhuthazwa okuvela ngaphandle, ikhiqiza eyayo, ifuna izixhumanisi ezintsha nemicabango. Ukudikibala kuvame ukuba yindawo engakhululekile lapho ubuciko buqala khona. Ukususa le ndawo kusho ukuthi unciphisa izindiza.

Ukwenza isikhala sokuzindla

Isikhathi esingahlelwanga, esingakhuthazwanga yisikhathi lapho sithola khona ukuqonda ngezimpilo zethu — ukuthi sizizwa kanjani, okubalulekile, okukhathazayo, lokho esikufunayo. Akukuhle kancane ngoba le nqubo iveza izinto esingase sithande ukungabhekani nazo. Kodwa ukugwema lokhu kunezindleko: impilo engekho nezikhala ezithule iyimpilo engekho nesikhathi sokuzindla ngempela. Ucingo lunikeza ukuphunyuka okungapheli ezinkampanini zethu, futhi sesikuthathe.

Ukukhuthaza isenzo esinengqondo

Ubuqhaqhazelwano, ingxenye, uphawu — umyalezo okhombisa ukuthi "lokhu akukuhlanganisi; thola okuthile okubalulekile." Emlandweni, le ngxenye yakhuthaza abantu ukuba baphendule ezintsha, imisebenzi, uxhumano, nezinguquko. Lapho siqeda ngokushesha yonke imfihlo yokubhaqhazela nge-feed, sithulisa le ngxenye. Sizizwa singabhaqhazeli, kodwa siphinde silahlekelwe ubuhlungu obasishukumisela ezintweni ezibalulekile. Ukuthulisa kuyinkinga efihlekile njengesisombululo.

Kungani singasakuthandi lokho

Ingxenye yokwenza lokhu kube nzima ukuyiphendulela ukuthi ukungaboni kahle kwethu kuhlale kuncishisiwe. Iminyaka yokugcwalisa zonke izikhala ngokuqukethwe okuphakeme kakhulu kukhuphule amazinga okukhuthazeka okukhona emiqondweni yethu, ngakho ukuhlala okujwayelekile manje kubonakala njengokungabi nakho kahle. Asigweme nje ukungabi nalutho ngokukhetha — sesilahlekelwe kakhulu amandla okuhlala kulokho. Lokhu kuhlangana eduze nalokho esikuchazayo esihlokweni sethu esithi ubuchopho bepopcorn.

Kukhona isibonelo esithakazelisayo socwaningo sokuthi lokhu kuhamba kude kangakanani: ezicwaningweni lapho abantu bashiye bodwa egumbini ngaphandle kokunye ngaphandle kwemicabango yabo kanye nenkinobho ethumela umshoshaphansi omncane, ingxenye ethile ikhethile ukuzishaya kunokuhlala kahle ngaphandle kokukhuthazeka. Kuyavela, sinesizungu esikhulu sokuba nje — futhi ifoni isenze sibe nabantu ababi kakhulu kulokhu, ngokwenza ukuthi casi sibe nezikhathi ezithile zokuzijwayeza.

Indlela yokuvumela ubuhlungu obuncane buphinde bube khona

Awudingi ukuba umnunzi. Inhloso ukuvuselela izikhala ezimbalwa ezingakhuthazwanga ukuze imodi yokucabanga, yokwakha ibuye ithole ithuba. Izindlela ezisebenzayo, ezilula:

• Leave the gaps empty on purpose. Ukulinda emgqeni, ukuhamba ngebhasi, ukuhamba endaweni ethile — ngokuqondile ungafinyeleli efoni. Vumela ubuhlungu bube khona. Lezi zikhala ezincane yizindawo lapho umqondo wawujolise khona.
• Do one low-stimulation activity daily. Ukuhamba ngaphandle kwepodcast, ukugeza ngaphandle kwesikrini, ukuhlala nekhofi ngaphandle kokufaka. Imisebenzi eyodwa, enezinga eliphansi lokukhuthazwa iyindawo efanelekile yokuhamba kwengqondo.
• Keep a capture tool for the ideas that surface. Lapho wenza isikhala sobuhlungu, imibono nemicabango iqala ukuvela futhi — kwesinye isikhathi kungase kube yinkinga. Ibhuku lokubhala noma uhlelo lokubhala (olusetshenziselwa ukubamba, hhayi ukuhamba) kusho ukuthi awulahli.
• Expect discomfort first. Izikhathi zokuqala zokuvuselela ubuhlungu zibukeka zingakhululeki futhi zingajabulisi — lokho kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi ukungabekezelelani kwehle, hhayi ukuthi akusebenzi. Kuzolile ezinsukwini ezithile njengoba amandla akha kabusha.
• Protect one phone-free context. Ngisho nesikhala esisodwa nsuku zonke lapho ifoni ingatholakali ivumela ubuhlungu ukuba bube khona. Bheka ingxenye yethu mayelana nokuvikela imizuzu eyi-20 yokuqala kosuku lwakho.

Ukubuyekezwa okwenza lokhu kube lula: awuzami ukujula kakhulu. Uzama ukuvimbela ukuzizwa okuthile okwakusebenza kahle kuwe. Ukudangala okuncane akuyona iphutha lokuzijabulisa — kuyimathiriyeli eluhlaza okudingwa yikhanda lakho ukuze ucabange ngemibono yakho.

Okubalulekile

Sibheke ukudangala njengokungafanele futhi ifoni njengokulungisa, futhi sikwazile ukukhipha cishe ngokuphelele. Kodwa ukudangala bekuyisici — umnyango wokuhamba kwemizwa, ubuciko, ukuzindla, nokungakhululeki okusishukumisela kulokho okubalulekile. Ukugcwalisa yonke indawo ngokukhuthazwa kubonakala njengentuthuko, kodwa kucasula inqubo yokucabanga esincike kuyo kakhulu kunalokho esikucabangayo.

Awudingi ukususa ukujabulisa kwakho ukuze ukwazi ukukubuyisela. Vele, yeka ukuzenzisa zonke izikhala. Shiya ukuhamba ngebhasi kungapheli, hamba ngaphandle ngaphandle komculo, phumula nephiko lakho bese uvumela ingqondo yakho ukuba ihambe. Ukungakhululeki kuyadlula, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi kukhona ingxenye yengqondo yakho ecabangayo, exhumanisayo, futhi edala — ingxenye obuyifake ku-mute. Ukudikibala akukaze kube yisitha. Kwakuyindawo lapho wenza khona ezinye zezingqondo zakho ezinhle kakhulu.

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