FOMO akukhona ngokuphuthelwa. Kumayelana nokuqhathanisa.

Unobusuku obuhle impela. Bese uvula i-feed ubone abantu abathathu obaziyo ephathini ongamenywanga kuyo, iholide lasezindaweni ezishisayo likamuntu othile, nomngani ememezela izindaba ezinhle. Ngokushesha, ubusuku bakho obuhle buqala ukuzwakala njengenduduzo yesibili. Lokho kuzwakala esiswini sakho kunegama — i-FOMO, ukuzwa sengathi uphuthelwa — futhi sekungenye yemiphumela evame kakhulu yokuphatha umhlaba wonke wokuxhumana ephaketheni lakho.

I-FOMO ivame ukubhekwa njengento encane yokungazethembi noma yokuba kakhulu ku-inthanethi. Kodwa iyisimo sangempela, esifundwe kahle kwezengqondo, esinezimbangela ezithile, futhi okubalulekile, empeleni ayiphathelene nemicimbi oyiphuthelayo. Ukuqonda ukuthi empeleni imayelana nani — futhi akusikho okuzwakala kunjalo — yikho okwenza kube nokwenzeka ukwehlisa ivolumu yayo.

Yini i-FOMO ngempela

Abacwaningi bachaza ukwesaba ukuphuthelwa njengokukhathazeka okusabalele ukuthi abanye bangase babe nezinto ezizuzisayo abazithokozelayo lapho wena ungekho, kuhambisana nesifiso sokuhlala uxhumene njalo nalokho abanye abakwenza. Leli gama lacwaningwa ngokujulile ngu-Andrew Przybylski nozakwabo, abathola ukuthi i-FOMO yayixhumene nomoya ophansi, ukwaneliseka okuphansi empilweni, futhi — okubonisa kakhulu — nokusetshenziswa okuphezulu, okuphoqelekile kakhulu kwe-izinkundla zokuxhumana. I-FOMO ikudonsela ku-feed, bese i-feed iphinde ikhulise i-FOMO.

Nakhu okuqondisa konke kabusha: i-FOMO isekelwe ezidingweni zengqondo ezingakagcwaliseki, ikakhulukazi isidingo sokuba ngowabanye nokuzizwa uxhumene. Lapho lezo zidingo zingagcwaliseki, ukwesaba ukusala ngaphandle kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye kuyakhula. Ngakho-ke ubuhlungu obuzwayo abukho ngempela bokuthi "Ngifisa sengathi bengisesithangamini esithile." Kuyinto ejulile ethi "ngixhumene yini, ngingowakhona yini, ngisahambisana yini?" — futhi i-feed yakhelwe kahle kakhulu ukuhlaba leyo ndawo ngqo.

I-FOMO izwakala sengathi imayelana nephathi oyiphuthelayo. Empeleni imayelana nombuzo ojulile kakhulu — ngisahambisana yini, ngingowakhona yini? — kanye ne-feed eyakhelwe ukwenza impendulo izwakale sengathi 'cha' izikhathi eziyikhulu ngosuku.

Kungani i-feed ikwenza lokhu

I-FOMO yayikhona ngaphambi kwezokuxhumana nabantu — abantu bebelokhu benendaba nokuba yingxenye emphakathini. Kodwa amapulatifomu ayiguqule leyo nhliziyo ebuhlungu eyenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile yaba ukuconsa okuqhubekayo, ngenxa yezindlela ezimbalwa ezithile zokuklama.

Ubona izinto ezinhle zawo wonke umuntu, konke ngesikhathi esisodwa

Abantu bafaka izikhathi zabo ezinhle kakhulu — iphathi, uhambo, ukunqoba — futhi cishe abakaze bafake uLwesibili olujwayelekile noma usuku olubi. Ngakho i-feed yakho iyireel ekhethiwe yezinto eziphezulu ezenzeka kubantu abaningi, icindezelwe ibe yiskrola esisodwa. Ugcina uqhathanisa impilo yakho yangaphakathi, ejwayelekile, engahlelwanga, nalawo maphuzu avelele abantu bonke angaphandle ahlelwe kabusha. Akukho ukuphila kwangempela okungaqhathaniswa naleyo nhlanganisela, yingakho i-feed ikushiya njalo uzizwa usalele emuva. Lena yiyo le ndlela esebenza nangemuva kwendatshana yethu ethi kungani ezokuxhumana zikwenza uzizwe kabi.

Ukuphuthelwa manje sekubonakala futhi akunakuphikwa

Ngaphambi kwezinkundla zokuxhumana, uma ungamenywanga kokuthile, ngokuvamile ubungazi nje. Manje uthola umlando wezithombe ngesikhathi sangempela walokho kanye ongazange ube yingxenye yako. Ipulatifomu iguqula ukungabikho okwakungabonakali kube isithombe esicacile, esingaphindwa sokukhishwa ngaphandle. Lokho akusona isiphumela esiseceleni — umsebenzi womphakathi obonakalayo yilokho okwenza uqhubeke ubheka, futhi ukubheka kwakho kungumkhiqizo uqobo.

Umjikelezo odalwa yi-FOMO

I-FOMO iyaziqinisa ngendlela engemnandi kakhulu. Uzizwa uhlukanisiwe noma usalele emuva, ngakho ubheka i-feed ukuze uphinde uxhumane futhi uziduduze. Kodwa i-feed — egxile ezintweni ezivelele nasekubonakaleni kokukhishwa ngaphandle — ikwenza uzizwe usalele emuva nakakhulu, hhayi kancane. Ngakho uyabheka futhi. Lokho kuziphatha uqobo okuthembisa ukukhululeka kuletha ubuhlungu obengeziwe, okubhebhezela lokho kuziphatha.

Yingakho iseluleko esithi "vele uyisebenzise kancane" singazwakali siqinile uma kuziwa ku-FOMO: le nkundla isebenza njengesu lakho (elingaphumeleli) lokuhlangabezana nesidingo sangempela sokuba yingxenye. Ngeke nje uyisuse ngaphandle kokubhekana nesidingo esingaphansi kwayo, noma uzodonswa ubuyela khona ngqo. Indlela yokuphuma akukhona nje ukusebenzisa i-feed kancane — wukuhlangabezana nesidingo sokuba yingxenye kwenye indawo lapho i-feed ingenakusiqeda khona.

Indlela yokuyithulisa

Ngoba i-FOMO iyinkinga yezidingo ezingafezeki eziziveza sengathi ukuphuthelwa, izindlela ezisebenzayo zibhekana kokubili ne-feed nesidingo esingaphansi kwayo:

• Qamba umuzwa wangempela. Lapho lowo muzwa uqhamuka, buza: ingabe lokhu ngempela kumayelana nalowo mcimbi, noma kumayelana nokuzizwa unganxenxelekile manje? Ukuyibiza njengosidingo sokuba yingxenye kunokuba kube yi-FOMO ethile kuvame ukuyithoba khona manjalo — uyeka ukulandela iphathi bese uqaphela umuzwa wangempela.
• Tshala ekuxhumaneni kwangempela kunokuxhumana nge-feed. Isidingo esingaphansi kwe-FOMO saneliswa ubudlelwano bangempela, hhayi ukubuka izimpilo zabanye. Ingxoxo eyodwa yangempela yenza okuningi kulowo muzwa kunehora lokuskrola. Ukuskrola kuyawondla kuphela.
• Khetha okuqukethwe okubonisa iqiniso, hhayi amaphuzu avelele. Thulisa noma uyeke ukulandela ama-akhawunti ahlale evusa ukuziqhathanisa. Awukhombisi ubukhazikhazi obuncane — wenqaba i-feed eklanyelwe ukukwenza uzizwe usalele emuva.
• Zijwayeze 'JOMO' — injabulo yokungaphuthelwa. Nika inani ngamabomu kusihlwa sokuhlala ekhaya, umzuzu ongazange uthathwe isithombe, nento oyikhethile kunaleyo oyibonile. Ukuphuthelwa izinto eziningi kuyinto ejwayelekile futhi kulungile; i-feed ivele yenza ukungabikho kuzizwe njengokwehluleka.
• Nciphisa ukufinyelela kokukuvusayo. Ukuchitha isikhathi esincane ku-feed yamaphuzu avelele kusho ukuqhathanisa okumbalwa. Hlanganisa lokhu nezinguquko zesakhiwo ezikumhlahlandlela wethu othi ukunciphisa isikhathi sesikrini ngaphandle kokuziphoqa.

Ushintsho olubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi i-feed ayilona iwindi elikukhombisa lokho okushodayo — iwumshini okhethiwe, okhulisa umuzwa wokushiywa ngaphandle, oqondiswe esidingweni sakho sokuba yingxenye. Uma usuyibona ngaleyo ndlela, lowo muzwa ulahlekelwa amandla awo. Ayikutsheli iqiniso ngempilo yakho; yenza umsebenzi wayo.

Okubalulekile

I-FOMO izwakala sengathi imayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho okuthile okukudlulayo, kodwa empeleni imayelana nesidingo esijulile sokuba yingxenye nokuhambisana nabanye — sihlatshwa njalo yi-feed ekhombisa wonke umuntu ama-highlights akhe ngesikhathi esisodwa futhi iguqule konke ukungabikho kube isithombe esibonakalayo sokukhishwa ngaphandle. Ukuziqhathanisa akunabulungisa, futhi ukuzizwa usalele emuva kuwumphumela owakhiwe ngamabomu.

Ikhambi akusilo ukuqapha ifidi kakhulu ukuze ungaphuthelwa lutho — lokho kumane kuphakele lowo mjikelezo. Kunalokho, wukuhlangabezana nesidingo sangempela kwenye indawo, ngokuxhumana okungokoqobo, nokubona ifidi ngalokho eyikho: umshini wokuqhathanisa. Awulahlekelwa iningi lalokho okubonayo. Uboniswa izingxenye ezivelele, bese ucelwa ukuba uzizwe umncane uma uziqhathanisa nazo. Ungenqaba.

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