Indlela Yokunciphisa Isikhathi Sokubuka Isikrini Ngempela (Ngaphandle Kokuzikhandla)

Kungenzeka ukuthi uzame izeluleko ezijwayelekile. Phonsa ifoni yakho kwenye igumbi. Sebenzisa imodi ye-grayscale. Susa izinhlelo zokusebenza. Futhi kuyasebenza — mhlawumbe izinsuku ezintathu. Bese ifoni ibuyela etafuleni lokulala, futhi ulala embhedeni phakathi kobusuku ubuka amavidiyo abantu bepheka izinto ongakaze uziphekele.

Inkinga akukhona amandla akho. Inkinga ukuthi lezi zicebiso zithatha udaba lwezempilo yengqondo njengokuhluleka kokuhlela.

Kungani amandla ezehluleka njalo

Ucingo lwakho aluwona nje umshini. Luyindlela yokuletha i-dopamine eyenziwe ngokuqondile. Wonke umyalezo, wonke ukuhoxiswa, wonke "ukuthanda" — lezi akuzona izigameko. Zikhiqizwa yizinkulungwane zama-A/B tests ezivela kwabanye abahlinzeki abahle emhlabeni, bonke bejolise entweni eyodwa: ukukugcina usemkhankasweni isikhathi eside.

Uhlelo lokreward lwekhanda aluhlukanisi phakathi kokuthi "Ngithole ukudla" nokuthi "Ngithole umlayezo omusha." Kokubili kukhuthaza i-dopamine. Umehluko ukuthi ukudla ekugcineni kukugcwalisa. I-social media ayinayo isignali efanayo yokugcwalisa — njalo kukhona okuqukethwe okwengeziwe, njalo kukhona omunye umyalezo.

I-willpower isebenza kwi-prefrontal cortex — indawo yokwenza izinqumo enengqondo, enobuhlakani. Ukufuna i-dopamine kuvela ku-limbic system — endala, esheshayo, futhi ezimweni eziningi, eqinile. Ukucela i-willpower ukuthi idlule ku-dopamine trigger kufana nokucela ibhayisikili ukuthi idlule imoto.

Izinto ezimbili ezisebenza ngempela

1. Shintsha imvelo, hhayi izinjongo zakho

Ucwaningo lokushintsha ukuziphatha luhambisana nalokhu: ukuklama imvelo kuhlula izinjongo njalo. Abantu abakwazi ukuzilawula kahle akusikho labo abaphikisa izinsongo kakhulu — bangabantu abahlela imvelo yabo ukuze izinsongo zivele kancane.

Ngokwezinto ezithile, lokhu kusho:

• Susa izinhlelo zokusebenza kusikrini sasekhaya. Ungazisusi — just uzihambise ngaphandle kwesikrini sokuqala. Ukuthinta okuthathu okwengeziwe kukhona ukuvimbela ukuhamba okungaziwa kokufinyelela-ukuthatha-ukuskrola.
• Shaja ifoni yakho ngaphandle kwendawo yokulala. Indawo yokulala iyindawo yokuphumula. Ngesikhathi ifoni yakho ikhona, iba yinto yokuqala oyibukayo ekuseni nendaba yokugcina ebusuku — kokubili izikhathi eziphezulu ze-dopamine ezikhuthaza umjikelezo wemikhuba.
• Sebenzisa idivayisi engalungile kwezinye izisebenzi. I-alamu ehlukile ikhipha isaba sokuba nefoni yakho eduze kwebhedi. Incwadi yomzimba ikhipha ukukhetha phakathi kokuthi "ngabe ngifunde noma ngizokhrola."

2. Shintsha, ungavimbi

Ucwaningo ngemikhuba lukhombisa ukuthi ukuvimbela isenzo ngaphandle kokusithathela indawo ngokuvamile akuphumelelanga. Ubuchopho bwenza isikhala bese bujabulisa ngempela isenzo sokuqala — ngokuvamile ngokufisa okukhulu kunakuqala.

Umbuzo okufanele ubuze awuwona "ngiy停止使用我的手机?" kodwa "yini edingekayo engiyithola kumakhalekhukhwini engingayithola ngenye indlela?" Imibuzo evamile:

• Ukudikibala → faka izindlela ezilula (incwadi eduze, ukuhamba okuncane, i-puzzle)
• Ukuxhumana nabantu → hlela ingxoxo yangempela esikhundleni sokuthokozisa izigigaba zabanye
• Ukuthula → umakhalekhukhwini uvamise ukukhulisa ukukhathazeka kunokukhipha; shintsha ngokuqhuba umoya okuncane noma ukuhamba
• Ukukhumbuza umkhuba → thola isikhumbuzo esithile (ukuhlala ethafeni, ulinde emgqeni) bese udala impendulo ehlukile kulokho

Indima ye-dopamine baseline

Kukhona into yesithathu abantu abaningi abayiboni: i-dopamine baseline yakho.

Ubuchopho buyazivumelanisa nezinga lokukhuthazwa obujwayele ukukuthola. Uma uthokozisa okuqukethwe okuphezulu kwe-dopamine njalo — imidiya yokuxhumana, imidlalo yevidiyo, izindaba — izinga lakho liphakama. Imisebenzi eyayijabulisa (ukufunda, ukuhamba, ukukhuluma nabantu) manje ibonakala ingathokozisi uma iqhathaniswa. Lokhu kwenza ukuthi abasebenzisi befonini ababephakeme baphawule ukuthi "akukho okuthokozisayo okwamanje" uma bezama ukunciphisa.

Isixazululo akusikho ukugcina ubunzima ngesikhathi sokudangala. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi izinga lidinga isikhathi sokubuyiselwa. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi lokhu kuthatha cishe amasonto amabili kuya kw four amaviki okunciphisa ukungena kokukhuthazwa okuphezulu. Ngesikhathi salo, imisebenzi enokukhuthazwa okuphansi iqhubeka iba yinhle futhi.

Lokhu futhi kwenza ukuthi izindlela zokushiya ngokushesha zivame ukuphumelela: zidalela isikhathi sokuhamba okungakhululekile ngaphandle kohlelo lokuthi kwenzekani okulandelayo, futhi abantu abaningi bayayeka umzamo ngaphambi kokuba izinga libuyiselwe.

Indawo yokuqala enengqondo

Esikhundleni sokufuna ukunciphisa ngokushesha, ubufakazi bukhomba indlela ethile:

• Qala ngokuqhuba ukuhlola. Abantu abaningi bahluleka ukubala isikhathi sabo sokubuka isikrini ngama-30–50%. Bheka izinombolo zakho zangempela ngaphandle kokwahlulela ngaphambi kokuthi unqume ukuthi yini okufanele uyishintshe.
• Thola izimo ezimbili noma ezintathu eziphezulu lapho ukusetshenziswa kubonakala kukhulu kakhulu (ekuseni, ntambama, izikhuthazo ezithile). Qala lapho kuphela.
• Hlela ushintsho olulodwa endaweni ngeviki esikhundleni sokuzama ukuguqula konke ngesikhathi esisodwa.
• Landela intuthuko, hhayi ubuhle. Usuku olungama-4 amahora esikhundleni sama-6 luyintuthuko, noma ngabe umgomo uwama-2.

Inhloso akukhona ukuhoxisa izikrini empilweni yakho — lokho akukhona okungokoqobo noma okusebenziseka kahle emhlabeni lapho ukuxhumana nokusebenza kwenzeka khona ngedijithali. Inhloso iwukusebenzisa ngenhloso: ukuthatha ifoni yakho ngoba uthathe isinqumo sokwenza kanjalo, hhayi ngoba isandla sakho sishayile ngaphambi kokuthi ubuchopho bakho bube khona.

I-psychology ye-digital FOMO

Ukukhathazeka ngokuphuthelwa — FOMO — kuyinto engakhulunywa kakhulu kodwa eyodwa yezinto ezinamandla kakhulu ezishukumisela abantu ukuba bahlola ifoni njalo. Akukhona nje ukukhathazeka okungaqondakali. Ucwaningo lwamaPrzybylski nabanye e-Oxford luthole ukuthi i-FOMO iyisimo sokucabanga esingalinganiswa esihlobene nezidingo ezingahlangatshezwa zokusebenza, ukuzimela, nokuxhumana. Lapho lezi zidingo zingahlangatshezwa empilweni yansuku zonke, ukuhlola izinkundla zokuxhumana kuba yisenzo sokubuyisela — indlela yokubheka ukuthi abanye abantu banamava athile aphelela phambi kwakho.

Inkinga ukuthi ukuhlole akuvamile ukusiza ukunciphisa i-FOMO. Ukubuka okukhishwe kwabanye abantu kuvame ukwandisa umuzwa ongaphelele esikhundleni sokuwanelisa. Ucwaningo lwango-2013 olwenziwe ephephandabeni i-Computers in Human Behavior luthole ukuthi ukusebenzisa i-Facebook ngokungathí sina — ukuhamba ngaphandle kokuxhumana — kuhlotshaniswa nokuncipha kokwaneliseka kokuphila nokwanda kokukhathazeka, kanti ukusebenzisa ngokactive (ukuthumela, imiyalezo eqondile) akubonakali ukuthi kunezimpempe ezinjalo. Isenzo esibamba isikhathi esiningi sabantu emithonjeni yokuxhumana yiso esinokuthinta okungcono kakhulu.

Kukhona futhi umqondo wesikhathi ku-FOMO okwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuwuphazamisa. Ukulahlekelwa okukhathazayo njalo kuyiphupho futhi kuhlala kusemhlabeni — kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona okukh happening okwamanje okungaphuthelwa. Lokhu kugcina ukuziphatha kokuhlola kusemkhakheni ophakathi kokuphindaphinda: kwesinye isikhathi ukuhlola kukhombisa okuthile okufanele, kodwa kakhulu kwesikhathi akukwenzi, kodwa ithuba lihlala likhona. Izinhlelo zokuphindaphinda zihlala ziqinile ekuphelisweni kwanoma iyiphi indlela yokuphindaphinda, yingakho ukuziphatha kuqhubeka noma umuntu eyazi, ngokuqonda, ukuthi akukho okubalulekile okungenzeka kube khona.

Ukubhekana ne-FOMO ngqo kusho ukusebenza kudinga okuyisisekelo esikhundleni sokuhlola okukhanyayo. Izindlela ezimbili zinezinsiza ezisemthethweni. Okokuqala, ukwandisa ukuxhumana nabantu baphila — ucwaningo lukhombisa njalo ukuthi ukuxhumana ngqo kuhlangabezana nesidingo sokuhlanganyela esikhombisa i-FOMO, kanti ukusetshenziswa kwezokuxhumana okungasebenzi akukwenzi. Okwesibili, ukunciphisa ngokuqondile ukungena kokuhlanganiswa komphakathi: ukucisha noma ukungalandeli ama-akhawunti aphindaphinda akhuthaza ukuqhathanisa kunciphisa izimpendulo ze-FOMO, noma ngabe isikhathi sokusebenzisa ipulatifomu sishintshiwe.

Kukhona umbuzo owusizo wokuhlola noma ngubani okholelwa ukuthi i-FOMO iyashukumisa ukuziphatha kokuhlola: uma uthatha ifoni yakho futhi uthola ukuthi akukho okusha, uzizwa ukhululekile noma udumazekile? Abantu abaningi bazizwa bedumazekile kancane, okukhombisa ukuthi ukuhlola akuhlosile ukuthola ulwazi — kuhlose ukuthola ukujabulisa nokwazisa. Lokhu kuhlukaniswa kubalulekile ngendlela ophatha ngayo ushintsho. Izinqubo eziklanyelwe ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka (ukuphefumula kancane, ukuzivocavoca, ukuxhumana okuhlelwe) zibaluleke kakhulu kunezinqubo eziklanyelwe ukunciphisa ukuphazamiseka (ama-timer we-app, ama-skrini e-grayscale). Ukuhambisana kokungenelela kumshayeli wangempela wezindlela zokuziphatha kuyinto ehlukanisa izindlela ezisebenzayo kulezo ezingasebenzi.

Ukuqapha njengensiza, hhayi njengokujeziswa

Iningi labantu abazama ukunciphisa isikhathi sabo sokubuka isikrini baqala ngomyalo: akekho ifoni ngaphambi kuka-9am, noma umkhawulo wezinsuku ezi-2. Lo myalo uvame ukuhlala ezinsukwini ezimbalwa bese wehla kancane, noma uveza ukujula njalo uma uphulwa — okwakha isikhuthazo sokusebenzisa isikrini okwengeziwe. Akukho okuphumelelayo.

Indlela ehlukile, esekelwa ucwaningo lokushintsha ukuziphatha, ibheka ukuqaphela njengokungena okuyinhloko kunokukhawulelwa. Lo mqondo uvela ezifundweni zokuzihlola: ukubheka nokurekhoda ukuziphatha kushintsha, ngisho noma kungabikho umgomo noma umthetho ohambisana nakho. Umsebenzi wokubona udala umthwalo omncane phakathi kokufuna nokwenza, futhi lowo mthwalo uvame ukuba enough ukuze uphazamise ukuziphatha okuzenzakalelayo.

Ngokwenziwa, lokhu kusho ukuqala ngephase yokuhlola yesonto elingu-2 ngaphambi kokuzama noma yisiphi ukusika. Ngalesi sikhathi, umsebenzi kuphela ukujola idatha yesikhathi sokubuka njalo futhi uqaphele amaphethini ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Nini ukusetshenziswa kukhuphuka? Yiziphi izinhlelo zokusebenza ezithola isikhathi esiningi? Yiziphi izikhathi ezibukeka zihluleka ngemuva, futhi yiziphi ezizwakala zingekho mthelela noma ezinhle? Le mininingwane ibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yimuphi umthetho ojwayelekile, ngoba ibonisa izimo ezithile lapho ukungena kuzoba nomthelela omkhulu.

Ukubeka izinto ngendlela engahluleli kubaluleke kakhulu kunokubukeka. Ucwaningo ngempilo yokuziphatha luveza njalo ukuthi ukungahloniphi nokuzigxeka emva kokwephula imithetho kubikezela ukuphindaphinda kunokulungisa. Abantu abaphendula ngosuku olubi nge "Ngiphumelele" bavame ukuyeka umzamo ngokuphelele, kuyilapho abantu abaphendula nge "lokhu bekungelula, kwenzekeni?" behlisa inqubekela phambili ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Inhloso yokulandela akukhona ukuziqhenya ngezinga — kodwa ukuhlinzeka ngemininingwane mayelana nezindlela zakho zokuziphatha ongasebenza kuzo.

• Sebenzisa amathuluzi akhiwe ngaphakathi. iOS Screen Time kanye ne-Android Digital Wellbeing zinikeza idatha enembile ye-app ngayinye. Bheka umbiko wesonto njalo ngeSonto ukuze ubone izimo esikhundleni sokuhlola ngesikhathi sangempela.
• Faka amalebula ezinsukwini zakho. Ngesonto elilodwa, qaphela ngaphambi kokuphakamisa ifoni yakho ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kuhlose (unomgomo othile) noma kuzenzakalelayo (isandla sakho sishayile). Awudingi ukwenza lutho ngalokhu — qaphela kuphela.
• Beka imigomo njengezikhala, hhayi izindonga. "Phakathi kwamahora amabili namathathu" kukhiqiza ukuphendula okuncane kokwehluleka kunokuthi "ngaphansi kwamahora amabili," ngoba okuthile okungaphezulu kukhona ekulindelweni.
• Bheka njalo ngesonto, hhayi nsuku zonke. Ukulandela nsuku zonke kukhuphula izinsuku ezimbi. Ukuhlola kwesonto kuqeda umehluko futhi kwenza izitayela zangempela zivele.

Uma usebenzisa lokhu, idatha yakho yesikhathi sokubuka iba yindlela yokuhlola esikhundleni sokuba yisigwebo. Iphendula umbuzo "kwenzekani ngempela?" esikhundleni sokuqinisekisa "anginakho ukuzithiba." Lokhu kushintsha kokubeka — kusuka ekwehlulekeni kwemoral kuya kulwazi lokuziphatha — yikho okwenza abantu bakwazi ukwenza izinguquko eziqinile esikhundleni sokuphindaphinda izinqumo ezisheshayo.

Umqondo wezokuxhumana: lapho imvelo yakho ilindele ukuthi ube nekhono lokusebenzisa isikrini

Ukushintsha ukuziphatha komuntu kube nzima kakhulu uma imvelo yokuxhumana iphikisa lokho. Kubantu abaningi, umgqugquzeli omkhulu wesikhathi sokusebenzisa isikrini akuwona umkhuba wabo siqu kodwa ulindelo lwangaphandle: ozakwethu abakulindele ukuthi uphendule nge-imeyili ngesikhathi esifanayo, izingxoxo zeqembu ezihamba ngokushesha ukuze zijezise ukubambezeleka, abaphathi abathatha isikhathi sokuphendula esingamahora amabili njengokungabandakanyeki.

Lokhu akusikho ukuphazamiseka okuncane. Ucwaningo ngamasiko okusebenza aphalways-on luhlanganisa njalo okulindelwe okuphezulu kokutholakala ne-cortisol ephezulu, ukuncipha kwekhwalithi yokulala, nokuphazamiseka kokucabanga ngesikhathi sokuphumula — noma ngabe umuntu engasebenzisi ifoni yakhe, kodwa nje eyazi ukuthi kulindelwe ukuthi atholakale. Ukulindela kokuphazamiseka okungenzeka kukhulu ukuze kuvinjelwe ukuhlukaniswa kwengqondo okudingekayo ukuze kuphumelele.

Ukuphatha lokhu kahle kudinga ukuhlukanisa izimo lapho unokukhetha okwenene kulezo lapho ungenakho. Abantu abaningi bahlola kakhulu ukuthi zingaki izikhathi ezitholakalayo empeleni ezidingekayo. Umsebenzi onenzuzo ukuhamba, ezinsukwini ezimbili, ubala ukuthi zingaki zezaziso oziphendulayo ngokushesha ezazidinga impendulo esheshayo — uma kuqhathaniswa nezinga elingakanani elingathola impendulo kahle uma kungakapheli amahora ambalwa. Ezimweni eziningi zomsebenzi wolwazi, impendulo ibonisa ukuthi ukujula okwenene akuvamile, futhi isidingo esibonakalayo sokuphendula ngokushesha siwumkhuba owamukelwe ngokuzenzakalelayo kunokuthi kube ngenxa yesidingo.

Lapho okulindelwe kokutholakala kuphumelele ngempela ngaphandle — izindima ezithile, amaqembu athile, ubudlelwano obuthile — indlela efanele yokukhiqiza iwukuxoxisana ngokucacile kunokuhoxa okukodwa. Ukusetha amahora obhizinisi abonakalayo, ukuxhumana ngezikhathi zokuphendula kusenesikhathi, nokuhlukanisa phakathi kweziteshi zokuxhumana eziphuthumayo (ifoni yokuphuthumayo) neziteshi ezijwayelekile (i-imeyili noma imiyalezo yokunye konke) kuyizinguquko ezakhiwe ezinciphisa umthwalo wokubheka ngaphandle kokudala umbono wokungabandakanyi.

Umqondo wezokuxhumana uphinde ufinyelele ubudlelwano bomuntu siqu. Abantu abaningi bahlola amafoni abo kaningi ezimweni zokuxhumana hhayi ngoba bekhetha ifoni kunabantu abakule ndawo, kodwa ngoba umkhuba weqembu uhlanganisa ukusetshenziswa kwefoni futhi ukukhetha ukuhoxisa kubonakala. Ucwaningo ngezimpawu zokuba nefoni — kwesinye isikhathi okubizwa ngokuthi "umphumela we-iPhone" — kuthole ukuthi ukuvela nje kwefoni etafuleni kwehlisa ubukhulu bokuxhumana, noma ngabe akekho ophakamisa. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwefoni ezimweni zokuxhumana kungase kudinge ukuhlela okukhanyayo ngokucacile nabantu obakhulumayo, hhayi kuphela ukuzimisela komuntu.

Konke lokhu kukhomba emgqeni omkhulu: isikhathi sokubuka isikrini siyisenzo esihlanganyelwe esihlanganiswe ezinhlelweni zokuxhumana, hhayi nje ukuphumelela komuntu siqu kokuzilawula. Izinguquko ezingeni lomuntu zidingeka kodwa azihlali zanele. Ukuhlonza ukuthi yiziphi izingxenye zokusetshenziswa kwesikrini zakho eziholwa umkhuba wakho siqu uma kuqhathaniswa nokulindelwa kwezenhlalo — nokuziphatha ngendlela ehlukile — kuyinto ethokozisayo futhi engakhulunywanga kakhulu ongayenza uma wakhe ubudlelwano obunengqondo nezinsiza zakho.

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